There is one error that people bring into their marriage, especially older folks; they say, “Time heals wounds.” That is not correct; time numbs the pain, but it doesn’t heal the wound. Doctors will tell you that painkillers destroy the practice of medicine because they deceive people about the problem. Doctors need the pain to diagnose correctly and to properly administer a cure. If you go to the hospital and you have been taking painkillers, they may not be able to diagnose your problem.
Time is a deceptive painkiller in marriage, particularly Christian marriages. You must identify anything that wants to numb the pain. Your status, role, position, and things like that can numb the pain but won’t solve the problem.
If a pastor and his wife are beating each other and people come and say, “You are pastors, don’t let people see you fight,” that does not stop why they are fighting, but it can numb the pain. Thus, they endure it, but they still feel like beating each other. What makes them feel like beating each other is not solved, but their status is numbing the pain.
If you are already on painkillers, I want you to stop, let the problems be solved. Time doesn’t heal the wound; it only numbs the pain. One of the reasons my marriage to my wife has been such a great journey and experience is because we were loaded with divine immunization against marital problems. So, we had minimal challenges, and it was easy for us to overcome them and get into enjoyment.
PRAYER: Lord, I bring my marriage before you today for complete and total healing in any area of challenge in Jesus’ name.
BIBLE IN A YEAR: Hosea 1:1-3:5, 1 John 5:1-21, Psalm 124:1-8, Proverbs 29:5-8