This is a very critical point that must be settled by couples if the marriage is going to work. Who are you submitted to as a husband and as a wife? Who can call both of you to accountability?
When people have marriage problems, I ask them whom they are submitted to. You must be submitted to God, the Scripture and the Holy Spirit. As you mature, it will stay in those three, but before then, you will need an individual you are both accountable to.
Who is the father figure or headship that can answer questions for both of you? Who can you report each other to in disputes that you can’t resolve by yourselves? Who can tell you the truth individually and together? Who can rebuke you and correct you in love? Without these legs in place, marriage will give you injuries that will become wounds that don’t heal.
When you see a man that has nobody in his life that he is submitted or accountable to, he is a disaster on two legs going somewhere to happen. The first casualties of such people will be their wife and children. When a woman reports the husband and she says nobody can talk to him, not even his pastor, it gives me a lot of concerns. This is one of the things creating problems in the body of Christ today – a home where the husband or wife has no headship he/she is submitted to. Headship is not control; headship is safety. I have never pastored anybody I cannot rebuke or correct, no matter his status.
PRAYER: Help me, Lord, to submit first of all to God, the Scripture, and the Holy Spirit. Amen!
BIBLE IN A YEAR: Zechariah 2:1-3:10, Revelation 13:1-13:18, Psalm 141:1-10, Proverbs 30:18-20