We will continue to examine the laws that should govern biblical marriage if you will enjoy it and not endure it.
Law of HONOR: Honor what God has honored. It is heresy for a man to tell his wife that she is not the only woman in town. Honor means, to set a value on. Calling your spouse Daddy or Mummy is honor and respect. You can use pet names but don’t let it be devoid of honor and respect. When you marry, put your wife in the place of a mother. She is not displacing or replacing your mother but she must be a mother to your children. Your mother will not let your wife be, if you don’t draw the line. When your wife and mother are affecting your marriage, it is devastating on the future and will affect your children. Something is also wrong with you as a man, if that happens in your home. Your mother has no right to tell you how to arrange your house except witchcraft as taken her over.
Law of RESPONSIBILITY: You must know what your responsibilities are. It is two becoming one and not one divided into two. Discuss your responsibilities with your spouse for clarity and focus. Whatever you were before marriage, discuss with each other. You are responsible for your parents but a parent that waits for his children to work before he eats is under a curse. For your grandparents, think of what you can afford. You are responsible directly for your family, children and your parents. You are not responsible directly to sponsor the school fees of the children of your step mother or father. You must be a biblical manager of the family fund to have a joint purse. Every child requires a special care from their parents before they can be normal. You can’t treat other children in your house as equal to your child and have your child normal. You are responsible for your child’s emotional development. Your child needs to be special to you.
Law of BEING THE RIGHT PERSON: Stop looking for the right person in marriage; you must be the right person. What does God need me to be for this marriage to work and what does my spouse need me to be? The biggest mistake is trying to change the other person. Change what your spouse is complaining about the most. Everybody can write 10 things that their spouse needs to change but can hardly complete a list of 10 things they need to change. Marriage will work if you know what you need to change and you change it. This is simply the act of not being selfish in the relationship.
Prayer: Father, bless these words in my heart and let it bring forth fruits in my life so that I will not disappoint your expectation in my life and family in Jesus’ name. Amen.